39 years with this wife , the first one didn't like guns so that didn't last. Train your wife to be a hunter get her involved. That's a two edged sword she may really like it and you may create a monster which isn't a bad thing just be careful what you ask for. I agree be patient with her. Take the kids out hunting no matter what age, they may stay in camp with mom or grandma, I carried mine in a back pack like an Indian cradle board. Teach the kids gun safety and how to hunt at an early age at this point mom will probably / hopefully want to get involved even if she doesn't want to hunt. My wife did not come from a hunting family but she took to hunting like a duck on water in her prime very hardcore hunter. We really haven't bought beef in any quanities for almost 40 years mostly because we like elk meat, every now and then deer, antelope & buffalo. Today she's about ready to give up any hardcore hunting because of age and after breaking her ankle dragging out our sons bull elk 2 years ago it still hasn't healed completely. I think she will still do easy hunts mostly for elk because she likes the meat and it doesn't cost us a lot. Here's my thoughts on buying guns my wife has never put any restrictions on either hunting, shooting or buying guns, I always told her it's a good investment and when I kick the bucket sell them for a lot more than we paid, they only increase in value, they are going to go to the kids, good argument anyway. Buy her diamonds and then go buy yourself a new gun. When in doubt go buy one anyway and get chewed out later. I have selective hearing, I mentioned I was going hunting don't you remember. Mine does the same thing I have to go down to the valley for a girls shopping trip , so let her she deserves it. If all else fails I don't know what to tell you.
This is what not to do !!! I was by myself racking a round in a 10 mm colt delta elite I and had an accidental discharge that was a first for me. I told her about it when she got home and she got pissed because it shouldn't have went off. My son came over later and I told him what happened and my wife was there and she told me to go buy a new SAFER gun. MY son and I looked at each other and my wife knew right then she probably shouldn't have said that. Now I'm looking at a new Sig P365, Beretta PX4 storm sub-compact or Springfield Armory XDE . We were in the valley and found a very nice used beretta storm for a very good price but I passed because I need to see the new Sig p365 which the local shops still haven't gotten in yet. About a week later an older friend did the same thing with a 1911 in 45.